Digital coaching for a happy relationship

 Most of us automatically associate terms like marriage therapy , couples therapy , or counseling for couples with:

• Face-to-face conversations with one (or perhaps two) experts in a practice or counseling center.
• A quiet room.
• A few armchairs.
• A small table.
• Subdued lighting.
• A recurring, fixed appointment every one, two, or three weeks.
• In the foyer: desk and telephone for making firm arrangements for future appointments.

Depending on the setting and the therapist's focus, couples then talk for 50, 60, or 90 minutes during the therapy session about their feelings and experiences, about hurts and unfulfilled desires. They describe what is currently making them dissatisfied or unhappy and why, what has been bothering them for a long time, what they are happy about, what they want to stay the same, and what they wish to be different.

And then gradually learn - with the help of the therapist - to (re)learn to speak and interact with each other in such a way that they  can truly  reach each other.

That injuries can heal. That conversations about everyday questions ("Who takes care of the children's homework?", "Who handles the appointments with the property management?", etc.) no longer lead to an argument in no time, but that they finally feel more comfortable and relaxed in their relationship (again).

The interactive PaarBalance online coaching brings the practical experience to your home. PaarBalance – developed by the two couple therapists Prof. Dr. Ludwig Schindler  &  Dr. Judith Gastner  – has been offering professional support, help and guidance for positive changes in your relationship since 2016 – regardless of time and place, without any waiting times or appointments.

You  schedule the appointments  yourself (without having to adhere to phone hours or write an email): ' self-directed online couples therapy ' – from your favorite place. You start your personal online couples therapy exactly when your mind is clear.

Following the scientifically based  PaarBalance partnership test , which highlights the strengths and weaknesses of your relationship (duration approx. 10 minutes), you will be taught the secrets of stable long-term relationships in 18 online sessions.

Because they do exist: the ingredients for a happy partnership. You just have to know them. And use them. Experienced couples therapists, relationship coaches, and scientists, drawing on decades of expertise in couples therapy, counseling, and relationship coaching, have developed this evidence-based online program, which utilizes all modern audiovisual possibilities. And it also addresses sensitive topics such as infidelity, jealousy, arguments, and sexuality constructively.

The question is: Is a personal appointment with a therapist on-site always necessary to achieve such positive changes in relationship dynamics?

Or are there perhaps other professional options available now that allow one or both partners – beyond 'traditional' couples therapy – to learn how to apply and anchor the 'ingredients of happy relationships'?

Thanks to psychotherapy research, we have been able to say with certainty for many years that therapy   can also work very effectively via telephone , as 'couples therapy online via  video consultation ' or in the form of scientifically based  online self-help programs .

Online couples therapy

PaarBalance stands for scientifically validated, self-directed  online couples therapy  . Unlike traditional forms of couples counseling, individual counseling, or therapy, PaarBalance's online concept allows you to learn about key insights from decades of practical experience and couples therapy research in a concise format via the internet.

With PaarBalance, you have access to an informative and humorous online self-help program for couples therapy, ideally suited for use by one partner alone (but of course also by both partners simultaneously) – conveniently integrated into your daily routine, from home, without fixed appointments. Use it whenever it  makes sense for you  ; whenever you have a little peace and quiet and the inner space; whenever you want to do something for your relationship. Even a few focused minutes at a time can be very effective.

The best way to start is with our free relationship test .

Just a few years ago, it was almost unimaginable to have individual or couples therapy online. An appointment with a therapist on the internet? Counseling sessions on a screen? No, thank you. In person, please, but not via the internet.

But the world became increasingly digital – and so more and more couples seeking help with difficulties sought online counseling. After overcoming initial doubts, more and more people – clients and therapists alike – discovered that online couples therapy or marriage counseling can indeed have advantages over a traditional in-person appointment.

• Online couples therapy is convenient and saves time: A consultation in a practice can take several hours in total, including travel time, and thus take up half the day (the 'classic' couples therapy session with a couples therapist usually lasts 60 or 90 minutes at a time).
• Interactive online programs like PaarBalance are 100% anonymous. To receive professional and competent support, it's not always necessary to share your most intimate problems with a stranger. Furthermore, no one in the client's social circle will know that they are seeking marriage counseling or couples therapy.
• Regular appointments with a couples therapist can be expensive. Health insurance companies are not obligated to reimburse therapy sessions for relationship problems. Often, a single 60- or 90-minute session costs more than a 3-month subscription to PaarBalance (see also our article " Couples Therapy Costs ").
• There are no waiting times online. While couples often have to wait several months for their first session in traditional couples therapy, with an online program like PaarBalance you can start immediately with the first video and training sessions.

PaarBalance is an interactive online coaching program tailored to each partner to improve their relationship.

The perfect learning program for anyone who no longer wants to wait for their partner to change first. For those who want to enjoy their relationship  now  and are fed up with burdensome relationship problems, exhausting conflicts, recurring arguments, and stress.

In short: Those who want to overcome a relationship crisis , a marital crisis  , and relationship chaos in the long term, and desire a better quality of life as a couple. And that in the long run.

What's special about this form of online couples therapy is that your partner doesn't even need to know you've discovered PaarBalance online counseling. It works perfectly fine without any guidance: one partner takes the first step, and the other follows suit. Completely automatically. The sooner you want to start, the better.

The online couples therapy program from PaarBalance is suitable

• (a) for all people in a committed partnership who would like to improve their relationship or make it more vibrant.
• (b) for couples who are currently in a serious crisis and   want to prevent a separation
• (c) for all those who are at the beginning of a new love and want to 'do everything right' from the start (see also our article " How relationships work ").

Ideally, both should be done in parallel! So-called 'blended counseling', the combination of personal consultation and a sound online program, has proven to be the most effective treatment concept currently available.

The CoupleBalance training program for greater relationship happiness can  effectively complement and accompany individual therapy sessions, outpatient couples counseling, couples therapy, or face-to-face relationship coaching – or be used following therapy or counseling to deepen key insights from discussions about relationship dynamics. The online coaching can also be used as a self-help program or during inpatient or outpatient hospital treatment.

The small, manageable units, interactive exercises, encouraging messages between sessions, and a wide range of other features (creating a chronicle of one's own relationship, printing out ingredients for happiness, sending important insights to the other person via email as a PDF, and much more) make it easy for the user to work with enjoyment on improving the quality of their relationship.

In the event of serious personal or relationship crises, you should contact a crisis center, a specialist doctor or a psychotherapist in your area as soon as possible.

If you take the humorously presented content of the coaching videos to heart, complete the accompanying training, and implement the practical recommendations, relationship stress, marital problems, or marital crises will  soon be a thing of the past.

Separation or even divorce? No! Definitely try couple balance first. Or couples therapy. Or both at the same time. After all, there were and are good reasons why you and your partner got together and have been a couple for so long. And those reasons are worth fighting for.

You will soon no longer experience the feeling of  being afraid of a relationship  or even incapable of one. Within just a few weeks, you can acquire – in a well-founded, engaging, and practical way – all the essential relationship skills needed for a loving partnership. And when  you  change,  your partner  will change too.

Do you have any questions?
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