Relationship problems? The first scientifically based online couples therapy.

No waiting time. Effective & efficient.

PaarBalance is your personal couples therapy – online, self-directed. Developed by couples therapists. Start your first session in seconds.

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What is Couple Balance?

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Scientifically sound & effective

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100% independently feasible

For the individual partner

Scientifically sound & effective

PaarBalance is known from:

Andreas & Kathi

Endlich haben wir wieder Spaß zusammen! Ihr habt da echt etwas unglaublich Hilfreiches hingestellt - sollte eigentlich jedes Paar machen.

3 Monate nach Start
Martina E.

Schon nach der 1. Sitzung hatte ich ein viel besseres Gefühl, wenn ich abends nach Hause gekommen bin. Die Atmosphäre zwischen meinem Mann und mir war gleich so viel entspannter.

1 Woche nach Start
Dominik B.

Für mich war PaarBalance der „Game Changer“ - nach einer ziemlich langen Beziehungskrise. Hätte NIEMALS gedacht, dass das so schnell funktionieren kann…

2 Monate nach Start

If you are experiencing difficulties with any of the following relationship issues, you've come to the right place:

I no longer feel loved.

I don't know if he/she still loves me. I feel no tenderness, no closeness. That makes me sad.


CoupleBalance helps to get to the root of emotional estrangement – and to consciously reshape love. Because feelings can be changed.

Lack of appreciation

I do so much – yet it's simply taken for granted. Praise? Thanks? Nothing. That hurts.


In coaching, you will learn how to get back into a positive perception loop – and together develop a new awareness of appreciation.

I no longer feel seen.

I talk – but it doesn't get through. My inner thoughts no longer seem to interest anyone. That hurts.


With CoupleBalance, you learn to communicate clearly again and perceive each other more attentively. For genuine closeness instead of inner withdrawal.

Passion has faded

We love each other, but somehow the spark is gone. Closeness, tenderness, excitement – it all seems to have vanished.


PaarBalance helps to bring more vibrancy, warmth and intimacy back into the relationship.

Illustration of a arguing couple, where the man is pointing his finger at his partner.
Arguments are escalating more and more often

Small things lead to big conflicts. Misunderstandings, justifications, withdrawal. We're going in circles.


PaarBalance helps to identify the causes, find new ways of communicating, and interact with each other on an equal footing again.

Sex has become a problem

Sex used to be beautiful and bonding. Today it's difficult or no longer even a topic of conversation. The distance is growing.


PaarBalance offers help to re-establish a loving dialogue – without pressure. For more intimacy and desire.

Relationship break - now what?

I don't know what to do. Maybe a break is best. But how can we do that without losing ourselves?


PaarBalance helps you to sort things out, clarify feelings and use your time constructively – while you remain in a relationship.

Breach of trust through affair

It feels like a nightmare. The affair has shaken everything to its core. Despair, anger, and guilt alternate within me.


The audio program "Taboo Topic: Affair" provides support, guidance, and accompanies you step by step out of the crisis.

Stress puts a strain on the relationship.

Work, daily life, appointments – it's all too much. Nerves are frayed, we forget how much we mean to each other.


PaarBalance shows you how to remain loving to each other despite stress and experience your relationship as a source of strength again.

Become a loving couple again.

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When, if not now?

Month
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149 €
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Lifetime
The perfect support to stay happy
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PaarBalance is the first scientifically validated digital solution to effectively help people with relationship problems.

Links to the efficacy studies:
www.karger.com/Article/Abstract/518692
www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2214782920301263
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Membership can be cancelled at any time up to the last day of the term.

No one should be prevented from participating due to usage fees. If you currently have no income but would like to start the program as soon as possible, please contact us directly at: [email protected] (Subject: Social Discount)

All prices include VAT. You can cancel or upgrade your PaarBalance account at any time, effective at the end of your paid usage period: [email protected] (Subject: Cancellation or Subject: Upgrade).

The Couple Balance Principle

Explained by couples therapist Dr. Judith Gastner

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Understanding strengths and weaknesses
The PaarBalance relationship test and your personal relationship profile provide you with a comprehensive overview of the current state of your partnership.
Relaxing atmosphere
Immediately after the program starts, you will receive the most proven tips and recommendations on how to noticeably improve your interactions.
Creating closeness & love
From then on, you will experience day after day and week after week how you can achieve great emotional effects with small changes in behavior and attitude.
Solve problems permanently
With effective step-by-step instructions, you will become increasingly confident in finding fair and sustainable solutions to existing problems.
Let's be a great team again!
From session to session, you will feel how good it feels to be a loving couple again and to treat each other with goodwill and appreciation.

CoupleBalance: 50 years of relationship research & decades of experience.

Knowing what is good for love - and what harms it.

18 Coaching-Videos,

in which essential relationship knowledge is conveyed in a humorous way.

Effective exercises,

with which you can playfully acquire the "ingredients for more love".

Specific tips & ideas,

that instantly create lightness and connection.

A mood barometer,

which shows you how your partnership improves.

A relationship chronicle,

in which you capture the most significant moments of your love.

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Personal exchange in live Q&A sessions

In addition to the proven online coaching, as a PaarBalance member you will receive access to our regular live Q&A sessions with experienced couple therapists.

The live sessions take place approximately every 4-6 weeks and offer you additional support on your journey to a fulfilling partnership.

Select a time slot & get started

When, if not now?

Month
A good window to get to know the program.
59 €
Average price only €1.96 per day
monthly
Subscription: can be cancelled monthly /
monthly payment
You will be redirected to the registration page.
Reviews
Binde Very popular
Quarter
A great time to initiate positive changes.
149 €
Average price only €1.65 per day
per quarter
Subscription: can be cancelled quarterly /
quarterly payment
You will be redirected to the registration page.
Reviews
Lifetime
The perfect support to stay happy
499 €

permanently
One payment is all it takes
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You will be redirected to the registration page.
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Are you finally (once again) among the happy couples?

You are not alone with your relationship issues!

Over the course of long-term relationships, most couples encounter a few "hot spots" that can lead to growing dissatisfaction. Surprisingly, but true:

Even if relationship problems have been going on for a long time, it is usually possible to noticeably improve the atmosphere very quickly. 

The relationship researchers and couple therapists at PaarBalance have summarized the scientifically sound 'ingredients' for a happy partnership so succinctly that it's (again) fun to do something for your relationship.

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"But why should I be the one to start again?"

It is perfectly understandable that we want initiative from our partner and wait for the other person to (finally…) change. 

But we may have been waiting for quite a long time.
Or for a very long time. Or even in vain.

People almost never change under external pressure - at least not permanently.

The good news:
There are people we can definitely influence positively: ourselves!

The best time to start is right now with online coaching.

Don't wait any longer for your partner to change. Take the challenges into your own hands. It works!
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Relationship quality

After just a few sessions, you will experience how your relationships become more relaxed and your quality of life improves.
If you take an active role, your relationship will change for the better. Decades of experience in couples therapy and coaching have shown this.
Follow the motto " Act instead of react! ". Don't wait any longer for things to improve on their own.
Start as soon as possible! You can be sure: your partner will follow suit.

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These women and men were able to save their relationship with PaarBalance:

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Frequently Asked Questions | Instructions | Help | Contact

Questions? We're here for you 24/7!

Feel free to call us anytime at Tel: 📞 089 - 20 190 195

My partner wouldn't participate in something like that anyway...

We hear this often. And yet—or rather, precisely because of this—it's worth taking action. Because you yourself are the most important factor influencing your relationship.

Don't let yourself be held back just because your partner isn't (yet) getting started.

You can create your own account in just a few minutes, start directly with Session 1, and immediately improve the atmosphere. Trust this: as you grow, it will automatically have a positive impact on your entire relationship.

Can impersonal online coaching actually help me?

The question is understandable – every partnership is unique, and every couple has their own specific questions and concerns. Nobody wants to be treated the same.

However, the CoupleBalance coaching program is designed so that you can tailor each training and application session to your individual situation.

In addition, there are regular live " Open Consultation Hours " to which you are warmly invited (participation is free for CoupleBalance members). Experienced couples therapists answer your personal questions there.

The interactive sessions (which you can complete at your own pace, anytime, anywhere) typically lead to noticeable improvements very quickly. The live sessions also help you gain new perspectives and get precise answers to your questions.

CoupleBalance is therefore not an impersonal online program, but a dynamic mix of self-help elements and personal group sessions, participation in which is voluntary.

Should you do Couple Balance alone or as a couple?

CoupleBalance is intentionally designed so that each partner activates their own secure access. While the tool aims to significantly improve the relationship—that is, the interaction between both partners—each participant initially works through the modules independently, answering questions individually and reflecting on the exercises and implementation tips at their own pace.

Of course, there's nothing wrong with (and it's even nice :-)) engaging with the content together—for example, watching the videos together or discussing specific reflection questions. However, the entire process is best completed individually and at your own pace.

We have so many problems – is online coaching suitable to help us?

Yes – because its effectiveness is scientifically proven, meaning there's a very high chance that the sessions will benefit you and help you move forward.

Studies show that the CoupleBalance program significantly increases relationship satisfaction and effectively helps resolve conflicts – often within just a few days or weeks.

Over 90% of users are very satisfied with the coaching.  Best of all: You can start right away – regardless of time or place – and experience for yourself how quickly positive changes occur.

Your relationship will thank you! 🙂

Is it even worth doing CoupleBalance on my own?

It's a common misconception that a relationship can only improve if both partners take action simultaneously. Unfortunately, this very often leads to nothing happening at all. The truth is:

when you take the initiative, you provide new, positive impetus. We'll show you what you can do to get your partner on board.

Don't let thoughts like, "Why me again? It's their turn now," hold you back.

Start as soon as possible – you can be sure your partner will (almost certainly) join you.

We're currently in couples counseling. Is combining it with PaarBalance advisable?

Yes - this combination would be ideal!

Using the PaarBalance program online at home alongside couples therapy or counseling would be ideal. Numerous studies on "blended counseling" (the combination of in-person and online interventions) clearly support this approach.

Using both options – in-person therapy and self-directed online sessions – simultaneously has demonstrably the strongest positive impact.

This means that the likelihood of achieving one's goals noticeably and sustainably is greatest.

Is PaarBalance scientifically sound? Is the program truly effective?

The evidence-based PaarBalance online coaching program was developed based on the latest research findings on satisfaction and stability in partnerships.

It includes treatment techniques from Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) – the couple therapy method with the greatest proven effectiveness.

Providing information via the internet has already proven very effective in self-help programs in other areas such as sleep disorders, depression and anxiety.

The PaarBalance program (intervention area: partnership satisfaction) has also been shown to be highly effective ( see scientific studies in cooperation with the Universities of Bamberg and Bern ).

How much time does the program require?

You should aim for one to two sessions per week . Each session lasts approximately 20 to 25 minutes . In addition, you'll need time to try out the suggestions that work best for you in your daily life.

In this case, the entire coaching program will last approximately 9 to 12 weeks.

Completed sessions can be repeated at any time—for example, if you feel (or are worried) that you might unintentionally slip back into old patterns.

For this reason, we offer the option of a "lifetime" account for all those who wish to dedicate themselves to the individual relationship topics at their own pace and refresh important units as often as they like.

What does the "money-back guarantee" mean? And how long is it valid for?

We want you to be satisfied with the Couple Balance coaching and for the program to be helpful to you.

If you do not experience any improvement in your partnership and well-being within 14 days of your registration, you will receive a refund of your coaching fees paid to date.

A simple email within 14 days of your registration to [email protected] is sufficient .

The only requirement is that you have completed two full CoupleBalance sessions during this period.

Can I also do the coaching on my smartphone?

Of course.

You can complete your CoupleBalance coaching session anywhere and anytime with internet access – whether you have a PC, laptop, tablet, or smartphone. You should ensure you have approximately 20 minutes of uninterrupted time per session.

I am in a same-sex relationship. Is this program suitable for me?

Of course !


Because the principles taught in the CoupleBalance tool apply to all forms of love relationships and partnerships.


Wherever people come together, it is important to keep the needs of all involved in mind, to communicate openly and respectfully with one another, to focus on the positive aspects of being together, to find good compromises, to forgive each other after misunderstandings or offenses, to support each other and to spend as many beautiful moments together as possible.


However, the illustrations in the 18 coaching videos consistently depict a heterosexual couple. This requires a certain degree of abstract thinking (though this applies to all CoupleBalance users, as our characters were deliberately drawn with minimal lines to avoid distracting from the program content...).


We live in separate locations. Is PaarBalance still the right choice?

Yes. PaarBalance is especially suitable for couples who cannot (or do not want to) see each other every day.

Because the coaching is tailored to the individual, both partners can work on the "dos & don'ts of happy relationships" from different locations and at different times, at their own pace, and specifically do something for their love.

When should I break up and no longer cling to the relationship?

A bond that has grown over time cannot simply be severed. Your partner and the relationship have become an important part of your life story. Therefore, it is almost always worthwhile to give your partnership another real chance if it has temporarily run into crisis.

However, there are situations in which being together is no longer good for either partner and in which separation would be the more sensible course of action. The following two are among the most common. Toxic Relationship: If your relationship is harming your or your partner's health, it could be a so-called 'toxic relationship'. In cases of emotional or physical abuse within the relationship, or if one partner chronically deceives, exploits, or cheats on the other, it is crucial to seek professional help as soon as possible. Often, separation is the only way to end the destructive dynamic. However, breaking free from a harmful and abusive relationship dynamic that is not based on mutual respect, honesty, and goodwill is usually a difficult process. If the entanglement persists, the harmed partner can never find inner peace and regain their shattered self-esteem. Another reason to separate rather than cling to the relationship at all costs is that both partners have developed in very different directions over a longer period. If there are no longer any shared interests, values, or priorities, and both feel that a "happy journey together" as a couple is no longer possible (because they are actually hindering each other's personal growth), separating and allowing each other to move on may be the more sensible course of action.














If a separation is achieved with respect for the other person and for the shared history, there is a good chance that an unhappy partnership can be transformed into a deep friendship .

We live in a blended family situation. Is PaarBalance suitable for us?

Of course! Because the principles taught in the CoupleBalance tool apply to all forms of love relationships and partnerships.

Wherever people come together, it is important to keep the needs of all involved in mind, to communicate openly and respectfully with one another, to focus on the positive aspects of being together, to find good compromises, to forgive each other after misunderstandings or offenses, to support each other and to spend as many beautiful moments together as possible.

The affair has been exposed and we're in total chaos. Does CoupleBalance even make sense at this point?

In this exceptional emotional situation, we would strongly recommend   starting with our audio program "Taboo Topic: Affairs" .

There you will find the best possible "first aid" and "step-by-step guidance" in this emotionally charged situation. Background information, predictions about expected developments, checklists, and concrete tips will help you regain control in this relationship meltdown and clarify how to move forward.

Once the initial shock has subsided somewhat, it almost always makes sense to consider the question: Should the growing love and bond be given another real chance – despite the breach of trust and pain?

Our usage recommendations for the PaarBalance program are therefore:

  • Watch only the film sequences of the coaching videos at your own pace (to calmly become aware of which positive and problematic patterns may have recently become ingrained in the individual areas of the relationship).
  • If you feel like it, do the corresponding exercises. Otherwise, keep referring back to a specific suggestion from "Taboo Topic: Affairs".

For now, completely refrain from doing the homework part.

[Note: To formally and technically conclude a Couple Balance session and move on to the next unit, please select the homework assignment that would have suited you best under other circumstances and then click 'NEXT'.]

Is coaching fun, or is it just hard relationship work?

Our entire team has made every effort to make PaarBalance appealing, entertaining and humorous.

We appreciate any feedback from PaarBalance users who apparently feel we've succeeded.  Here are a few quotes: 

  • "A valuable, well-prepared aid that was actually really fun and also had many humorous aspects."
  • "I chuckled a lot while watching the news."
  • "The videos are humorous, vivid and memorable; it's actually fun to start a new session, even though it's really about problem solving."

The best thing to do is try it yourself!

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